Happy Trans Day of Visibility, Bryon.
Transgender Day of Visibility was celebrated on March 31st. This is a day designed to celebrate trans lives and push back against the erasure, the legislation, the relentless political machinery that has spent years making trans people’s existence a wedge issue, a culture war prop, and a way to rally a base.
And on this exact day, the Daily Mail dropped photos of Bryon Noem, husband of Kristi Noem, former Secretary of Homeland Security, professional anti-LGBTQ crusader, dressed in oversized fake breasts and hot pink underwear, deep in the bimbofication fetish community, allegedly sending $25,000 to models online while going by the name “Jason Jackson.”
You cannot make this shit up.
Kristi Noem built her career on telling other people who they were allowed to be. She signed the Religious Freedom Restoration Act. She banned trans girls from school sports. She pushed restrictions on gender-affirming care for minors. She made “protecting women and children” from the specter of gender nonconformity into a personal brand. She sat in front of congressional committees with Bryon right behind her, solemn and supportive, while she talked about the threat that people like him apparently represent.
The projection is the point.
This is not a gotcha about cross-dressing. Cross-dressing is not inherently trans, not inherently political, not inherently anything except a thing some people do. Bryon Noem’s personal life is his business in a vacuum. But it didn’t exist in a vacuum. It existed inside a marriage to one of the most visibly anti-LGBTQ political figures in the country, in a home that built its public identity on the premise that gender nonconformity is dangerous and deviant and something the state should regulate.
The hypocrisy isn’t incidental. It’s structural. This is what happens when you build a political identity around policing desires you share.
— AND SHE WANTS PRIVACY —
Kristi’s camp says she’s “devastated” and “blindsided.” She’s asking for privacy. She wants prayers. That’s a reasonable human response to a hard moment in a marriage.
Also, as one person put it online: Kristi Noem has some fcking audacity asking for privacy after giving ICE agents the okay to break people’s doors down.
This is the woman who oversaw Operation Metro Surge, the immigration enforcement campaign where agents kicked in doors, detained people in front of their children, and killed two U.S. citizens: Renée Good, a 37-year-old mother of three, and Alex Pretti, a 37-year-old ICU nurse at a Veterans Affairs hospital. The woman who characterized those victims as domestic terrorists when the backlash came. The woman who built a national profile on the premise that some people’s private lives are public business, subject to state force, subject to legislation, subject to whatever the administration decided was the threat of the week.
Trans people do not get to ask for privacy. Their healthcare is debated in legislatures. Their kids are named in bills. Their existence is treated as a public question that politicians like Kristi Noem get to answer on their behalf. The privacy she is asking for today is exactly the kind of privacy her politics have spent years denying to other people.
You don’t get to break down other people’s doors and then ask for yours to stay closed.
— WHILE WE’RE HERE —
I do not care what Bryon Noem does in his bedroom. The kink is not the scandal. The gap between what these people preach and what they practice is. And when it comes to the “protect the children” crowd specifically, that gap has a criminal rap sheet.
The loudest voices in the “family values” movement have a pattern. It is documented. It has names attached to it.
Dennis Hastert, Speaker of the House, most powerful Republican in Congress for nearly a decade, was convicted on federal charges tied to paying hush money for the sexual abuse of boys he coached. He admitted to the abuse in open court. The sentencing judge called him a “serial child molester” from the bench.
Mark Foley was co-chairman of the House Caucus on Missing and Exploited Children, the committee that literally wrote the laws targeting sexual predators. He resigned after explicit sexual messages to teenage congressional pages became public. Pages he had direct legislative authority over.
Josh Duggar spent years as the public face of conservative Christian family values, executive director of the Family Research Council’s political action committee. He is currently serving a 12.5-year federal prison sentence after being convicted on child sexual abuse material charges. The conviction was upheld all the way to the Supreme Court.
Jim Jordan has spent decades in Congress demanding to protect children from LGBTQ influence. Multiple former Ohio State wrestlers have credibly accused him of knowing about the systematic sexual abuse of student athletes by team doctor Richard Strauss, and doing nothing. He was deposed under oath in a civil lawsuit as recently as 2025. He denies it. The abuse itself has been confirmed. OSU has paid out $60 million in settlements to nearly 300 victims.
The list is not short and it is not subtle. This is not a coincidence. Projection is a documented psychological pattern; the loudest condemnation often comes from the people most desperate to redirect attention. When someone builds an entire political identity around what other people are allowed to want, it is worth asking why it is so personal to them.
I don’t care if you’re gay, trans, kinky, or somewhere in between. I care if you’re hurting kids. And the receipts on who’s actually been doing that doesn’t point where the legislation keeps pointing.
Bryon Noem has a fetish. That is between him, his wife, and whatever he works through in therapy if it becomes an issue for him. What is not private is the political machine his wife ran that told millions of people their identities were a threat to children, while this was happening in her own house, on her husband’s phone, funded by her family’s money.
To every trans person reading this: you have been told your entire life that you are the problem. That your visibility is a threat. That people like you are what’s wrong. And today the mask came off on the other side of that argument, same as it always eventually does.
You are not the ones who have been lying.
Happy Belated Trans Day of Visibility. The mirror doesn’t lie, it just takes time to get turned around.
